Every night I think of her and the long future ahead for all of us before we can see her again, if there is such a thing as heaven. I miss everything, the flip flop of her shoes, the hairclips on all the tables, the smell of her hand cream, her tubes of pink and coral lipstick in the bathroom drawer. I miss her saying the rosary in the morning and checking on the baby at night. I miss her pancake mix with the thousand different types of whole grain and her fondness for chocolate cake and pumpkin pie. I miss the way she loved the grandkids, how she truly cared about their opinions, how she could soothe any hurt or worry by rocking them in her chair. She always said she wished I had a rocking chair at my house, other than the tiny one from the upstairs guest room. She wanted to rock Viv to sleep at night whenever she visited.
Life will be returning to "normal" soon, which is when this will get even harder, I think. Dad asked me today when he thinks we'll all hit the ground, and I said I thought it would happen when everyone had gone home, back to their lives. I have to go home next week to get ready for Montana, my aunts and uncles all have their jobs and kids and grandkids of their own. Our grief will become something we have to bear without putting the burden on others.
Dad gave me an article today about how most people have very little patience with the grieving process of others, how the five stages should be on a timeline with a quick end. All I can think of is how I don't think I'll ever get to acceptance, because that would mean that Mom is truly gone.